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Great Questions

One thing that I have learned over the past few years is that asking the right questions is a vital part of leadership.  Great leaders ask great questions.  If you want to be a great parent you need to learn to ask the right questions.  If you want to have a great marriage you must learn to ask the right questions.  If you want to be a great business leader you must learn to ask the right questions.  If you want to handle money wisely you must learn to ask the right questions.

I am convinced that in so many areas of our lives we are simply asking the wrong questions.  And common sense tells us that if we are asking the wrong questions, there is no way that we will ever arrive at the right answers.

With that being said, I would like to share with you what I believe are a few great questions.

1.) Where is this heading? We make the mistake of judging the health of a relationship by where it is right now.  But the truth is, you never judge the health of a relationship by where it is now, but rather by the direction it is heading.  All relationships are heading somewhere.  Your marriage is heading somewhere.  Your relationship with your teenager is heading somewhere.  Your relationship with God is heading somewhere.  This not only applies to relationships.  It also applies to your finances.  What direction are your finances heading.  The bible says, “the prudent (wise) see danger and take refuge, but the simple (unwise) keep going and suffer for it”. That means that we should look ahead and act before all of your options become bad options.

2.) What’s in my heart? From an early age we are taught to monitor our behavior.  Remember your mom saying, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”.  It is all about behavior modification.  Jesus, on the other hand, said to “guard your heart”.  Jesus said, “out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks”. What is in our heart is affecting all of our relationships and all of our decisions. If we simply go through life trying to filter what we say and do, we will never deal with the root of our problem.  It’s like cutting off a weed at ground level.  It is a temporary solution.  You must kill the root of the weed or it will just keep growing back.  In the same way, we must deal with our heart and not simply our behavior.  What’s in your heart today? Greed, Anger, Lust, Jealousy, Worry, etc…

3.) Am I part of the problem or part of the solution? We like to blame other people.  It is always someone else’s fault.  The thought rarely crosses our mind that “we might be apart of the problem”. Last year we saw a perfect example of this played out at Charles Henderson High School.  It was the first year that students were required to wear uniforms.  And needless to say there was a lot of drama the first few days of the school year.  There were several parents that showed up ranting and raving about their child being sent home or being sent to the office for not obeying the new dress code.  These same parents wonder why their child has problems obeying them.  Could it be that these same parents have unknowingly taught their children to rebel against authority because they themselves rebel against authority?  Could they be part of the problem?  Could you be partly to blame for the problems that you are currently complaining about?

“TWISTED” AUTHORITY

twisted_logo_thumb-1When I was growing up, one of the things that I hated the most was people telling me what to do. It seemed like everyone in my life thought it was there job to boss me around. Cut the grass, Clean your room, Do your homework… There was my mom and dad, my teachers, my coaches…

My grandparents were the only ones that seemed to want to let me do what I want to do… Me and my brothers would often go and stay with my Granny Davis after school. She would let us watch TV, play Nintendo, and she would practically force us to drink homemade chocolate milk, which had an extremely unhealthy amount of sugar in it, and eat fudge rounds, swiss cake rolls, and twix candy bars. Anytime that my Granny Davis told us to do something it was usually fun. Before I tell this story you have to understand that Granny Davis had been scratched by a rabid cat and had developed a hatred for animals… ALL ANIMALS… We would be sitting watching TV and she would run into the room and say “boys, come here, hurry. There’s a dog in the yard.” And she would give us little BB guns and she would slowly crack the screen door that opened to the back yard and tell us to shoot the dog. Not to kill it… Just to run it off. I know that seems cruel and I would never do that now, but at the time I found it strangely satisfying. And I realize that probably means that I could use some kind of therapy… But anyway back to what I was saying…

At times it seemed like everyone around me was controlling my life. I could not wait until I could be out on my own… Out from under all the rules… Making my own choices… Living my own life…

I’m sure that everyone reading this has felt that way at times. We get tired of all the rules and all the people telling us what we can and can’t do. The bottom line is that we don’t like having people in authority over us. What I mean by people in authority, are people who hold power or control over us. People who have a position in our life that allows them to make and enforce the rules. People like Parents, Grandparents, Bosses, Teachers, Police Officers, Coaches, etc… We don’t like Authority… UNLESS we are the ones in authority. We love authority when we are the ones in authority. We like being in charge, We like making the decisions, We like making the rules, and we like telling others what to do. We also love authority when the authority supports us. When something happens at school and the teacher or principal says we’re right and the other person is wrong… We love authority then. When we get in a wreck and the State Trooper says that it was the other person’s fault and their insurance has to pay for your car. In moments like that we love authority and are thankful for authority. But when the authority says we are wrong we want to rebel.

So apparently there are times that we like having authority in our lives and times that we absolutely despise having authority in our lives. But the bigger question is what is the proper response to Authority. Why do we have Authority. And are there times when it is appropriate to disobey Authority. Let’s take a few minutes to look at what the Bible has to say about authority.

1 Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. 2 Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. 3 For rulers hold no terror for those who do right, but for those who do wrong. Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do what is right and he will commend you. 4 For he is God’s servant to do you good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for he does not bear the sword for nothing. He is God’s servant, an agent of wrath to bring punishment on the wrongdoer. 5 Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the authorities, not only because of possible punishment but also because of conscience. –Romans 13:1-5

You see, the bottom line is that God works through authority. He always has and he always will. Most everything around us works on the basis of chain of authority. When God made the world, he put man in authority over the animals. When God created the family unit, he put the man in authority over the family. In the church God intends for their to be a chain of authority. In the military, there is a chain of authority. In government, there is a chain of authority. In the animal kingdom there is a food chain. Even Jesus said that He was under His Father’s authority. Everything that God has ever created is intended to operate through a chain of authority. When that chain of authority is broken chaos breaks out. The simple fact is that God works through authority.

The TWIST that the devil has used when it comes to Authority is this. He convinces us to look at the WHAT instead of the WHO. He tricks us into thinking that we can evaluate whether or not we agree with WHAT we are being asked to do without any regard to WHO is asking us to do it. He deceives us into thinking that we should evaluate the RULE without considering WHO the RULE GIVER is. When we fall for the TWIST we begin to think: If I Disagree with a Rule, I will Disobey the Rule, Regardless of WHO the RULEGIVER is. So when our parents tell us to be home by 10:30 we evaluate whether or not we like the RULE. We think it is ok to decide if WE think the RULE is FAIR. If not we feel justifies in breaking the rule. We fall for the TWIST.

GOD SAYS: It’s not about WHAT, It’s about WHO. It’s not about whether or not we like the RULE. It’s about whether or not we are going to choose to obey the RULEGIVER.

I know what some of you are thinking. Your thinking in your head, so you mean that I have to obey every authority no matter what. But what if they tell me to do something that illegal or immoral? Then can’t I disobey that authority?

To that I would ask this question: “How often has someone in authority over you asked you to do something illegal or immoral?” For most of us the answer is NEVER.

But if that does happen, the first step is for you to directly tell them that you cannot do what they asked. And tell them why. If they still insist that you do it, you simply go to another authority. You appeal to the next authority over them. If the authorities over them insist you obey and what they are asking you to do is illegal or immoral, you must respectfully refuse and be willing to suffer the consequences.

For example, if a teacher at school tells you have to give a presentation on why you don’t believe in God. You should first go to the teacher in private and respectfully explain to her that you cannot do a presentation on why you don’t believe in God because you do have a relationship with Him. And offer an alternative subject. If she still refuses, then go to the principal who is in authority over the teacher. If the principal says you have to do the presentation, you can go to the superintendent. After appealing to every possible authority, they still say you have to do the presentation, you must be willing to suffer the consequences of not obeying. But most of the time the problem can be solved by simply appealing to a higher authority.

Now that we have dealt with that excuse, I want to share with you two reasons why you should stay under your earthly authorities.

1. If we train ourselves to evaluate the WHAT and not WHO when it comes to our earthly authorities we will do the same with God. If we take each individual RULE and decide if we agree with it instead of looking at WHO MADE THE RULE, we will do that with the Bible. You will begin to pick and choose what parts of the Bible you agree with and what parts you don’t agree with. That is exactly what Satan did in the Garden of Eden. He twisted the truth. He convinced Adam and Eve to look at the WHAT and not the WHO. He convinced them to look at the RULE and not the RULE GIVER.

2. God says, you cannot be out from under your human authorities and be under God’s authority. Once you choose to step out from under your earthly authorities, you also are choosing to step out from under God’s authority. Once you choose to step out from under the guidance and protection of your earthly authorities, you are choosing to step out from under the guidance and protection of your heavenly father. And that is a dangerous place to be. You can blame God all you want to for the consequences that you have to deal with when you step out from under your earthly authorities, but remember, you made the choice.

Don’t you want God to direct your life? Then you’ve got to stay under authority. Don’t you want to end up with the least amount of regrets possible. Then you’ve got to stay under authority. I can almost guarantee you that if you look back at your biggest regret in life. That night that still haunts you. That conversation that you wish had never taken place. That choice that you wish you had never made. If you were honest about it, you were probably disobeying some authority in your life when your biggest regret took place. And I can pretty much guarantee you that you weren’t obeying someone in authority over you when you made that big mistake. You definitely weren’t obeying God.

And just using a little common sense, don’t you think that if you would learn to trust that God works through authority you could avoid future regrets. I promise you that if you live by the principles and advice given in the Bible, you would have a much better life from here on out… In fact, I dare you to prove me wrong on that.

You see the devil has TWISTED the way that we see the Bible. We think that is a book of RULES intended to keep us “Under Control”. We think somehow God is trying to keep us from having any fun… That Is the TWIST. You see, in reality the Bible was intended to show us how to live life to the fullest. It is how the CREATOR OF LIFE shows us how to really LIVE LIFE. And one of the ways that the Bible says to live life is to live under authority.

Drive ’09 Session 3 Takeaways

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To make your vision stick:

1. State it Simply

2. Cast it Convincingly

*Define the Problem
*Offer a Solution
*Explain why and why now

Position and present your vision as the solution to a problem that must be addressed immediately

3. Repeat is Regularly

4. Celebrate it Systematically (What gets Rewarded gets Repeated)

5. Embrace it Personally

Drive ’09 Session 1 Takeaways

Uncertainty is why we need leadersdrive00121

I will always be uncertain, I’m certain of it –Andy Stanley

2 Things Leaders Must Have

*Clarity
We can afford to be uncertain, but we cannot afford to be unclear.

*Flexibility
Plans change, Vision remains the same.

Leaders must:
Be honest with your leaders and followers
Seek Council… Leadership is not about making decisions on your own, but about owning them once they are made

“IT”

We had a great discussion last night in our small group about “IT”. By “IT” I mean when you walk into a church and you sense that there is just something different. They have “IT”. The temptation is to say that “IT” is the Holy Spirit, and that is definitely part of the equation. However, the Bible says that wherever two or more followers of Jesus are gathered, that God is in their midst. I agree that you cannot have “IT” without the Holy Spirit, but the Holy Spirit is not the only ingredient that makes a ministry have “IT”.

Everyone in our group had at some point in their life been apart of a ministry that had “IT”. As I listened and asked questions I found a few common denominators that were always present where “IT” was.

1.) Strong Belief in the Mission. Ministries that have “IT” always seem to have a strong core of people that believe strongly in the mission of the ministry. My conclusion is that ministries that don’t have “IT” either have a mission that the people don’t really believe in or the mission has not been stated clearly enough by the leadership.

2.) Investment and Involvement. Ministries that have “IT” always seem to have a strong core of people that are investing time, energy, and resources into the ministry. They are not just an attender. They are active participants and partners. My conclusion is that ministries that don’t have “IT” are full of people that come to watch and be served.

3. Improving. Ministries that have “IT” always seem to be evaluating and improving what they do. They are not content to simply maintain. They are not afraid to scrap things that are no longer working. They are not afraid of trying new things. They are not afraid of failure. My conclusion is that ministries that don’t have “IT” are content to simply guard and maintain the ministries and members they have.

Communication Tips by Andy Stanley

I found this at http://www.edstetzer.com

Question: What is your philosophy of communication/preaching?

Andy: Preaching on Sunday mornings is such a simple thing and by complicating it, I think we all do ourselves and the audience a disservice. It is very simple. Here is the model: Make people feel like they need an answer to a question. Then take them to God’s Word to answer the question. And tell them why it is important to do what we just talked about. And then you close by saying, “Wouldn’t it be great if everybody did that?” And that’s it. It is a journey. You take people from somewhere to somewhere.

And that’s why preaching by points is a terrible model. Because points are not a journey. Points are points. But communication is: Here we all are. We all have a common need or desire. We all have something in common, and I am going to stay here until I make you feel the need to have it resolved. And then I am going to open God’s Word and resolve it. And I am going to take that and tell you what you need to do specifically. And then I am going to take a minute and talk about what the world would be like, how much better off we would all be, if we would all do what the Scriptures say. It is really that simple.

Anytime a person listens to a pastor or to any talk that is compelling, all those elements are there. And you feel like you have gone with somebody on a journey. You just need to learn to outline that way. So when they bring an outline, I say, “You didn’t make me want to know what you spent twenty minutes telling me, so you left the station without me. I didn’t really care. It really wasn’t that compelling.” So, give me one idea, not multiple ideas. Most sermons are too long. Most sermons cover way too much information. Most sermons could be series. I say that all the time. “Poor guy, he spent all week preparing. He has three sermons and gave them all in one rushed forty-minute time period. His three points should be three sermons. Just leave me with a thought. We will all come back next week, so there is no rush to get it all in in one week.”

So, it is simple. It is a journey. This morning I am going to start by making sure that I am going to leave the station and everybody knows where we are going. And they know why they need to go with me. And once I have built enough tension for someone to give a rip about what we are going to talk about, then I am going to take them to a passage of Scripture where somebody resolves or expresses that tension. And I am going to stay there long enough so hopefully they will go back that afternoon and they will say, “I understand this part of the Bible.” Then I am going to talk about what to do and what a wonderful world it would be like if we all just do this. It is really that simple.

We had Jeff Foxworthy come to our Christmas party for our staff several years ago. I sat there on the first row, and I can hardly breathe because I am laughing so hard. It went two hours and I sat there thinking: there were no points; he has no application; he has no outline that I am aware of. I have been sitting here for almost two hours, and he is talking about rednecks. And I am fully engaged. There is no takeaway. There is no value. There is nothing biblical. There are no visual aids. There is no video. And I am fully engaged for an hour and a half.

The reason I bring that up is: there is this myth that people say, “Sermons need to be short because people today have short attention spans.” That is totally irrelevant. People’s attention spans are as long as their engagement. If I’m engaged, I will sit and stay engaged until I have to go to the bathroom. The issue is: are people engaged, not how long is the sermon? Granted, there are things that determine how long worship services should be. But communicators need to figure out how well do they engage people, and they should not talk one word longer than people are engaged.

There are people like Jeff who can engage you for an hour and a half in your chair, and they should go an hour and a half. And there are other communicators who can’t keep you engaged for more than 15 or 20 minutes, and they shouldn’t talk longer than that. Because once I am disengaged, then I begin to process the information as: this is irrelevant; church is irrelevant; God is irrelevant; the Bible is irrelevant. And all of a sudden I am learning the opposite lesson. I am drawing conclusions that are opposite of what the communicator is trying to make me draw because I am disengaged. So, the issue is: how do you engage the audience? And one of the things I talk to our communicators about is: The outline is great; the stories are great. But how do you engage them? How do you make it feel like we are on a journey, not you are just up there giving me information.

Leadership: “Don’t Be That Couch” by Andy Stanley

stanley_250w_tnThese are some notes I took from Andy Stanley’s talk at Catalyst One Day. I hope they are helpful.

Introduction:
Programs should be an answer to a question or meet a need.

I. Whereas programming begins as an answer to a question, over time it becomes part of organizational CULTURE.

A. As culture changes, many of the questions remain the same, but the answers DON’T.
B. The tendency is to institutionalize our answers.
C. If we institutionalize an answer, the day will come when it is no longer an ANSWER.

II. We must continue to be more committed to our mission than to our PROGRAMMING or our MODEL.

A. Over time, sustaining the model can become the MISSION.
B. Over time, the model can work AGAINST the mission.

III. Points of Discussion

A. What have we fallen in love with that’s really not as effective as it used to be?

B. Where are we manufacturing energy?

“If we got kicked out and the board brought in a new CEO, what would he or she do? Why shouldn’t we walk out the door, come back in, and o it ourselves?” –Only the Paranoid Survive by Andy Grove

C. What are our organizational ASSUMPTIONS?

Leaders must bring the underlying assumptions that drive company strategy into line with changes in the external environment.

The assumptions a team has held the longest or the most deeply are the likeliest to be its undoing. Some beliefs have come to appear so obvious that they are off limits for debate.

Leadership: “Busting Barriers with Mindset Changes” by Craig Groeschel

spkr_cgroeschel_lgThese are some notes that I took from Craig Groeschel’s talk at Catalyst One Day. I hope they are helpful.

1. Think differently about your church CULTURE.

“You must model it before they do it”

*We think, our people won’t ___________________. (what is it that you think your church won’t do? Serve, Give, Volunteer, etc…)
*The problem is that WE haven’t LED them to ______________________. (what is it that you think your church won’t do? Serve, Give, Volunteer, etc…)

2. Think differently about PROGRAMMING.

“What are you doing that you need to quit doing?”

*We think we have to do MORE to reach more.
*We can actually reach MORE by doing LESS.

3. Think differently about the MISSION.

*We think we can’t hurt someone’s FEELINGS.
*We can’t allow someone to hold back the MISSION of the church.

4. Think differently about people LEAVING the church.

*We think we can’t let anyone LEAVE.
*We can actually GROW when people leave.

5. Think differently about LIMITATIONS

“Innovation is often born out of Limitation”

*We think we CAN’T because we don’t
*We CAN because we don’t

Three Assignments:

1. Find someone one or two steps ahead of you and learn how they THINK. Most want to learn what they DO –not how they THINK.

2. Identify one WRONG mindset and ask God to renew your mind with TRUTH.

3. Identify one PAINFUL decision you’ve been avoiding and commit to make the decision no matter what the short-term PAIN.